They say the way you talk to plants matters. Say kind things and they thrive, say mean things and they will shrivel and wilt. Well plants and people must have that in common, because we can grow and shrink ours or others self-confidence.
We desperately want our young people to have the self-confidence to go out, be themselves, flourish, and make a positive difference. For that, they need the positive talk and self-confidence to face the world.
There’s no real quick fix to self-confidence. But just like a plant, begin watering that seed and you will see something in the future bloom!
Where does self-confidence come from?
Like all intangible things, self-confidence doesn’t just come from one source and isn’t easy to trace.
It comes from both outside and internal factors.
Factors like self-belief, past experiences, levels of wellbeing, experiences, history can all affect someone’s self-confidence. But it can also be built and grown. There are many ‘quick fix confidence hacks’ online, but here are two key points we believe really effects self-confidence.
What do you believe about life and yourself?
What we believe about life and ourself will ultimately shape our self-confidence.
If we believe that our value comes from our appearance, we will never have high self-confidence unless we think we look ‘good’ enough. Or if we believe we need to be liked to be important, our self-confidence will always be effected by this. So we need a self-awareness as to what our values and beliefs actually are, and whether they are helpful and true.
Let me encourage you to examine your beliefs and values, and think, are these actually MY values, or have these been given to me by others, that I don’t necessarily hold to be true within myself. Because you, rockstar, are awesome, and your self-worth doesn’t need to come from others opinions or transient things like appearance!
Who do you surround yourself with?
The words and actions of others affect us.
If we surround ourselves with people who only talk negatively about themselves or about us, that will affect how we perceive ourselves. Include people in your life who you admire, who have a strong level of self-confidence, and who encourage and uplift you. And become that person for others too.
“We rise by lifting others” – Robert Ingersoll
So say to yourself and to others, “Hey I’ve got this! You’ve got this. And you’re awesome.” We sure think so 🙂
Other ways to build your self-esteem includes examining your self-talk and taking healthy risks. If finding actionable ways to boost your self-esteem or the self-esteem of another young person is what you’re interested in – take a look at our digital course packages which can be done in your own home! A great first step before taking the next one.